Thursday, December 9, 2021

Living Like a Queen

Ask the Life Coach


Dear Coach, 

I’m a widow in my 80s. I want to keep my life vital and joy filled. Do you have any suggestions on how I can do this? 


Still Raring to Go 



Dear Raring to Go, 

I love your attitude! A good example of someone who has remained vital and, we assume, joy-filled is 94-year-old Queen Elizabeth II. She recently revealed her rules for staying vital to author Bryan Kozlowski for his book, Long Live the Queen: 23 Rules for Living from Britain’s Longest-Reigning Monarch. Consider which of the Queen’s rules applies to you as you strive to continue to live a vital life.  

Here are a few of the twenty-three rules. They are in no particular order:  

  1. Stick to a schedule. From her early days as queen, Elizabeth has followed a strict daily regiment that ends with writing in her journal.  
  2. Learn to dial down negative mind chatter. Sweetening your selftalk creates a type of psychological armor. Positive selftalk is particularly important when you live alone (as I assume you do). 
  3. Play. Elizabeth takes time nearly every day to play as she did as a childspecifically with horses. This keeps her brain youthful and her body flexible. Are you engaging in a fun activity every day? If not, what might you try? 
  4. Serve others. The patron of hundreds of charities, the queen believes that giving herself to good causes also helps put her own worries in perspective.  
  5. Sustain your faith. As a regular church attender and person who prays daily, Elizabeth believes that whatever worries the world throws at her, there is “a higher throne on which to lay them.” 
  6. Be open to change. The queen has never stopped learning and adapting. She says, “The way we embrace change defines our future.” Are you open to change in this fast-paced world? 
  7. Have a sense of purpose. Studies show that having a cause helps immunity and reduces one’s risk of Alzheimer’s. Your cause may not be as large as the queen’s (her country) but choose one that makes a difference to you.  
  8. Recharge your willpower. Elizabeth shows a great deal of restraint and self-control in her daily life. However limitless this may seem, she takes time to recharge her willpower battery. Tea anyone?  

I hope some of these strategies will resonate with you, and you can live out your later years as the vibrant person you aspire to be. 



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