Sunday, October 17, 2021

Help When You are Feeling Down

Ask the Life Coach

Dear Coach,

I thought I was prepared for life to hand me a curve ball, but I wasn’t. Because of a series of devastating circumstances beyond my control, I’m at a very low point in my life right now and I’m finding it difficult to move forward.

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

Down But Not Quite Out

Dear Down,

First of all, if you’re feeling severely depressed (i.e. unable to get out of bed) or suicidal, please seek professional help right away. Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or a local agency. You can text or speak with someone immediately at the 800 number.

However, the fact that you emailed me and asked for help tells me you’re not in crisis mode. By reaching out, you’ve already taken the first step towards climbing out of the pit you feel you are in. If you’re isolating yourself, make an effort to get together with friends or family. Schedule time for a cup of coffee with a buddy, invite someone over to watch your favorite team play, call your daughter.

In addition to reaching out to friends, family, or seeking professional help, set daily goals for yourself. Completing small tasks will boost your confidence and optimism. A few suggestions are: Make your bed every day, walk a certain number of steps, read a set amount of pages in a book or magazine, or go to the gym (even if you really don’t want to).

Remember the setbacks/crisis/challenges you’ve overcome in the past and pat yourself on the back for coming out strong. If you’ve done it before, you can do it again. While you’re at it, consider at least one thing you’re grateful for right now. Are you strong enough to be grateful when you’re at your lowest?

You thought you were prepared for anything but, like the great heavyweight champion Mike Tyson said, “Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face.” You’ve been “punched in the face” but you can fight back. Take one minute, one hour, or one day at a time and you will regain your forward momentum. You can do this!

As a retired Certified Personal/Professional Coach, I’m delighted to bring my years of life coaching experience to Coastal Breeze News readers. I’m currently writing a self-help book, “Mom’s Gone, Now What?” and invite you to follow me at More than mother loss, the blog addresses how to live a healthy, joy-filled life.

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