Monday, October 18, 2021

Divorce Jewelry?



By Richard Alan

Wait, before you decide I’m crazy and turn the page, you must understand I get many requests for such things.

Yeah, I know, weeks ago I spoke about the beauty of a long and loving marriage and how many couples even renew vows after certain anniversary dates. And I have the utmost respect for them.

Personally, I’m a realist and being in the jewelry business my whole life I have seen many couples in love picking out that special engagement ring. Many survive the engagement and many don’t. Sometimes he’s back looking for a refund on the diamond that lost its shine, so to speak.

In a perfect world, the fiancées return to my shop and pick out the wedding bands for that special day of matrimonial bliss. I have a strict policy in my shop about engraving wedding bands. First the love muffins must pay for the rings in full before I engrave anything…no refunds!

I’m a businessman and you know love is a splendid thing. I agree whole heartedly, only unlike diamonds it’s not always forever. And believe me, there’s no market for slightly used wedding bands that read… “Love you forever, your snuggle muffin 6/21/11”

Years ago I was very sympathetic (I’ve been divorced myself.) and when things didn’t work out between couples I usually worked out some kind of refund. That was then… this is now.

I came to realize that a jeweler in southwest Florida with a sympathetic attitude will be filing for Chapter Eleven faster than you can say “I’m leaving, I’m taking the dog, I want a divorce!”

I bought them all back. I could fill a showcase with failed engagement rings just on Marco alone. So what’s a young divorcee to do with the diamond that doesn’t shine anymore?

Don’t toss it in the Marco River or pawn it. Redesign it! Add a few extra gemstones to the jinxed diamond, wear it on the right hand and presto! No more engagement ring look. It says I’m single and available!

Other options are resetting the diamond into a dramatic pendant or a slide for a chain or wire, even a light omega necklace.

The transformation from a ring with a bad history to a wearable item is the ultimate recycling project.

I admit some ladies think that the wearing of the cursed diamond will bring bad mojo or misfortune. That can be fixed. While in New Orleans a few months ago I found a potion in a Voodoo shop that will neutralize the bad vibes!

A goldsmith does what the customers commission him to do and uses whatever diamonds or gems they may have and incorporates them into the finished piece.

I realize in some instances “the ring” may bring sadness or bad memories. In that case put it away somewhere out of sight. I guarantee that in a couple of years you will be glad you didn’t toss it in the river or pawn it for peanuts.

When seen in a different light or a different setting you can learn to enjoy it again. Geez! What’s next? The ‘I dropped out of high school ring’?

I would like to answer a question I received from cyberspace.

Donna from Marco asks, “ do certain gemstones actually fade in sunlight?” The answer is yes. Kunzite, a soft pink gemstone, is notorious for fading in sunlight. And one must be careful with Amethyst, Aquamarine, and Chrysoprase. Don’t store them in direct sunlight. Once the color fades nothing can be done to bring it back. So you see a day at the beach can fade more that one’s hair!

Gold’s father is dirt, yet it regards itself as noble. (Yiddish Proverb)

Richard Alan is a designer /goldsmith and the owner of the Harbor Goldsmith and Richard’s Reef’s on Marco Island and welcomes your questions about all that glitters. 239-394-9275.


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